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What exactly do you do on a date?
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So I'm 21 and have never been on a date, lately I have been thinking about working up the courage to ask out a friend of mine, but like I have no idea what exactly occurs on a date, is it just a fancy way of saying you're hanging out with someone you're interested in? Sorry if this is a dumb question...
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How do you people date?
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31M, average weight/height/face, artistic, agreeable, but introverted/shy, though I think I am a good conversationalist in one-on-one scenarios and small groups.
I am in grad school wrapping up my PhD and interested in dating in the 28-36 y.o. age range. Few single people in this age range are in grad school/university... Dating apps (in particular, Hinge) are completely wrecking my mental health and self-esteem. I went on a series of dates with a woman from it last spring (my first match). Since, I get maybe 1 match per month with a woman I'd be interested in dating and when I do, I get no reply... I'm convinced I have a lot of value to bring to a relationship, so the only thing I can attribute my lack of success to on apps is my physical appearance... At that rate, it will take me years to get another first date with an app.
Where can I meet single women in that age bracket? I'm really, really struggling and "through friends of friends" isn't really working... my friends are partnered and busy. I also don't want to be that guy who joins a club/hobby just to meet women to date, but I do want to meet women with the intention to date.
I'm starting to feel hopeless...
Edit: Not a native English speaker; my native language is French. I didn't realize that "you people" has a negative connotation and Reddit won't let me edit the title. I could have omitted "people" easily. Please don't forget that while Reddit mostly operates in English, many of us only write it as a second/third language.
Update: I decided to remove my online dating profile to focus on IRL encounters. I will try to focus on activities that are conducive to meeting new people. I guess I will just need to work the courage to ask women out in person. I'm tired of being gaslit by people who say I "just need better photos/prompts". Ultimately, I think apps are not meant to be used by men like myself. I guess I could play the long game and just wait for luck to strike in apps, but the cost of doing that in terms of my mental health are too high. I really appreciate your answers. Thank you.
Top Comment: I’m at the top end of your age bracket. I’ll be on the apps when I feel like dating and that’s the only place you’d probably see me occasionally. Currently seeing a guy I met on tinder. Otherwise I work with 98% women. My friends are single women younger than I am 30-34, and when we go out it’s to dinner or drinks or events to have fun together, not to meet anyone. My hobbies are running, classes with my dogs, reading, and volunteering, not really designed to try to find a partner. Re-reading what I’ve typed out, it sounds so conceited, but I truly can’t think of a single place in real life a man would have access to meet my friends or me. Only apps.
I’m going on a date for the first time in my life! (24 M)
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Today I’m going on a date for the first time ever in my life! I met this girl on Bumble and we got along really well really fast and decided to meet in person.
I’m nervous, I have zero dating experience and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I’m afraid this will be noticeable.
On a side note. I’m really proud of myself!
Any advice? Thanks!
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What is happening in the current state of dating?
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so for those of you who are single and dating right now. What is the number one problem that you have in the dating marketplace? If you’re using apps, what is the number one problem you have with apps? If you’re not getting any dates, why do you think that’s happening? I’m so curious. I’ve been having some conversations with some friends and I think I might know why, but I would love your input
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